Do You Need A Relationship Detox?


by Daniel Dowling February 11, 2017

Have you tried every detox and cleanse without the results you expected?

Beet juice, lemon juice, alkalizing water, fruit fasts, broth fasts, quick fasts, slow fasts…we’ve all tried them. And when the fasts don’t help, we spend even more money on the latest miracle pills.

But there’s something missing from the average detox regimen that you can’t buy in stores. It can’t be juiced. It can’t be fasted. It can’t be shoved up your rectum. And it takes serious commitment.

I’m talking about a relationship cleanse.

Why It’s So Important

Most people choose all the right ways to detox without thinking about how they re-tox. But no amount of cleansing can fix an unresolved cause of toxicity. And of the most toxic aspects of modern life, relationships are at the top of the list.

We’ve learned how to act in relationships from the worst and most dramatic examples in TV and movies. The stars get high off each other's love chemicals. They use each other as crutches for insecurity. Then they cling together until the pain of being in a relationship is greater than the fear of being alone.

Relationship Detox

We think this is normal romance, but it’s not. Bad relationships generate emotions like:

  • Fear
  • Anxiety
  • Hatred
  • Depression
  • Insecurity
  • Despair
  • And jealousy

All of these emotions correspond to different areas of the body, and they create physical toxicity that no amount of beet juice, vitamins, or colonics can cure.

Good relationships that fill us with hope and encouragement, on the other hand, can offset toxic lifestyles. So save yourself some time and money with a relationship cleanse.

Here are 3 steps to support your relationship detox:

1. Affirm Your Worth

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”

Like attracts like, right? So the thoughts about yourself determine what you accept from other people. Toxic self-dialogue leads to toxic relationships and toxic emotions—you can break the cycle by practicing exclusively encouraging thoughts about yourself.

Take time every day to improve your self-perception. Make a habit of flooding yourself with positive thoughts about you; from your looks, to your accomplishments, to your intrinsic value. Affirm your worth at every turn; especially when you falter.

Love Yourself

Make a habit of saying these things (and others like them) constantly throughout the day:

  • I love you
  • I love how hard you work to make me happy
  • I appreciate you. I respect you. I accept you no matter what.
  • I’m so proud of your accomplishments, and so excited to see how you grow today.
  • I am worthy. I am valuable. I am needed.
  • I am confident and capable of achieving my dreams today.

Condition your mind to accept nothing less than respect and gratitude from others by practicing the same with yourself. Doing this in the morning, whenever you feel down, and before bed will pave the way for inspiring relationships. It will also give you the strength to let go of toxic ones.

2. Let Go of Toxic Relationships

Toxic Relationship

Letting go of people who aren’t good for us is extremely challenging. The longer we hang around them, the more permanent they seem, and the harder it is to let them go. Toxic friends and lovers are like security blankets in a constantly changing world; we’ll hang on to them until we realize just how far they drag us down.

Think about the friends (or lovers) who you haven’t been able to part with. Then think of the emotions they bring into the relationship. If you’re constantly brought down by an unreliable, unfaithful, static, or sketchy person, think of how the stress affects your body. Then realize how positively your life would change if you let them go.

It’s hard. But if you want to be the best version of you, you need people who can help.

3. Choose Happy, Fun, and Encouraging Relationships

Positive People

Make the decision to surround yourself exclusively with positive people. It takes effort. It takes commitment. And it requires that you live an inspired life yourself. But for the vitality these relationships bring to your life, it’s worth every bit of effort.

The best way to find positive and encouraging people is to do the things you love. Whether it’s rock climbing, hiking, camping, volunteering, or pursuing your dream career, you’re guaranteed to find the right people when you are busy being the right person; Husbands and wives included. So do what you love.

Conclusion

If you’ve detoxed without success, it’s important to see how your relationships are creating toxicity. If they aren’t brimming with happiness, set new standards that will allow your relationships to overflow with positive emotions. Set higher standards for the way you talk to yourself. And if the other person can’t change with you, consider letting them go. 

Your health and happiness are worth it.


Daniel Dowling
Daniel Dowling

Author

Dan Dowling is the founder of MillennialSuccess.io, where he shares action steps and inspiration for millennials and their employers. You can find more of his work on Fast Company, MindBodyGreen, and Fitbit.com.




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